Are we perfect?

A man and his girlfriend were married.  It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations.  A wonderful time was had by all. The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo.
 
Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.
  

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: “I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” she offered. 

“Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.” 

The husband agreed.  So each of them went to a separate room in the house  and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other.  They thought  about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with. The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists..  

“I’ll start,” offered the wife.  She took out her list.  It had many items on it.  Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband’s eyes. 

“What’s wrong?” she asked.
 
“Nothing” the husband replied, “keep reading your list..”
 

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband.  She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.  “Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.”  She said happily.  

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”  

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.   

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don’t really have to go looking for them. We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us..?   

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody’s perfect but we can find perfectness in them to change the way we see them.   

– We are not trying to condone what is bad. Correction does much, but encouragement does more.

“The blue of heaven is larger than the clouds . . .” 

Courtesy: Thanks to my friend Archana Muralidharan for sharing this through an e-mail.

Need i say anything more? I am sure you would have definitely enjoyed reading it. Though to all of  us, it looks so nice while imagining the husband’s role with us, it definitely comes through PRACTICE! Not just by thinking and accepting. Aint I? So, lets start….

22 comments so far

  1. Archana Muralidharan on

    Thanks for blogging it !!!

  2. raghs on

    @Archana,

    URW. My Pleasure🙂

  3. பிரேம்குமார் on

    ராகவன்,

    இத படிச்சிட்டு எல்லோரும், முக்கியமாக பெண்கள் இது மாதிரி நினைக்கிற ஒரு துணை வேணும்னு ஆசைப்படுவாங்களே தவிர, அவர் மாதிரி எல்லாவற்றையும் ஏற்றுக்கொள்வோம் என்று உறுதிக் கொள்ளமாட்டார்கள்😉

  4. raghs on

    @பிரேம்குமார்,

    நன்றி கருத்துப்பதிவுக்கு.

    //இத படிச்சிட்டு எல்லோரும், முக்கியமாக பெண்கள் இது மாதிரி நினைக்கிற ஒரு துணை வேணும்னு ஆசைப்படுவாங்களே தவிர, அவர் மாதிரி எல்லாவற்றையும் ஏற்றுக்கொள்வோம் என்று உறுதிக் கொள்ளமாட்டார்கள் //

    நன்றாகச் சொன்னீர்கள்.. ஆயினும் ஏற்றுக் கொள்வதில் தவறில்லையே.. ஏற்றுக் கொள்வதன் விளைவாகத் தானே ஐயா தாம் விரும்பிய அத்தகைய துணையை இணையாக அடைய முடியும்?

  5. pria on

    A good one. Did the little bird tell you about my post too. Just kidding.

    In life nobody is perfect, but expectations are more from within and others. Due to this individuality is lost and more of artificial factors turn in including our own attitude how we change for situations, family and friends.

  6. raghs on

    @pria,

    thank you.

    //Did the little bird tell you about my post too. Just kidding.//

    what was that? don’t get you. but i did read ur post and commented🙂

    //In life nobody is perfect, but expectations are more from within and others. Due to this individuality is lost and more of artificial factors turn in including our own attitude how we change for situations, family and friends.//

    Well said. The last part of the statement is absolutely perfect🙂 That’s where life makes itself interesting right?

  7. vizhiyan on

    சின்ன சின்ன வார்த்தைகள் என்றாலும் பலர் வாழ்வில் மலர்ச்சி உண்டாக்கும்.

    பகிர்ந்தமைக்கு நன்றி ராகவன்..

  8. raghs on

    @vizhiyan,

    உங்கள் வரவு நல்வரவாயிற்று.

    //சின்ன சின்ன வார்த்தைகள் என்றாலும் பலர் வாழ்வில் மலர்ச்சி உண்டாக்கும்.

    பகிர்ந்தமைக்கு நன்றி ராகவன்..//

    நன்றி தலைவா…🙂

  9. Viji on

    100% true.. :))
    Though read it many times in forward, it is worth a read again.. :))

  10. raghs on

    @viji,

    //100% true.. :))

    Though read it many times in forward, it is worth a read again.. :))//

    ha ha ha.. that’s fine.. well said.

    Thank you🙂

  11. Vidya on

    It is a nice touching story! It takes a lot of maturity to get to the state of mind of the husband in the story!

    Vidya

  12. raghs on

    @Vidya,

    Welcome here🙂

    //It is a nice touching story!//

    Thank you. Credit goes to my friend Archana who actually shared this.

    // It takes a lot of maturity to get to the state of mind of the husband in the story! //

    Yes. True indeed! That’s what i said, PRACTICE makes you.

  13. pria on

    Since its wa about attitude too I said did a bird sent u a msg’ for similar posts.

  14. Ashish on

    wonderful post!!! nobody is perfect.

  15. raghs on

    @pria,

    //Since its wa about attitude too I said did a bird sent u a msg’ for similar posts.//

    Perhaps it might have been🙂

    I remember a quote which one of my colleagues used to keep..

    “Keep a green tree in your heart and perhaps a singing bird will come”.

  16. raghs on

    @Ashish,

    Welcome dude🙂

    //wonderful post!!! nobody is perfect.//

    Thank you.

  17. Santa on

    Dei rags….super da….:o)i liked it very much

  18. Ponnarasi.K on

    //Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.” //

    This was just awesome!🙂 It takes so much patience and maturity 2 come 2 this point in life I guess🙂

  19. raghs on

    @Santa,

    //Dei rags….super da….:o)i liked it very much//

    Thank you da😉

  20. raghs on

    @Ponnarasi,

    //This was just awesome! //

    Thank you!

    //It takes so much patience and maturity 2 come 2 this point in life I guess //

    Yes, very well.🙂

  21. shals88 on

    Lovely post! Thanks for sharing it..
    The husband should have had so much of love and patience that he didn’t even find a single fault even after his wife read out the whole list… I think its just a matter of understanding. .

  22. raghs on

    @shals88,

    Welcome here!

    //Lovely post! Thanks for sharing it..//

    Thank you. Pleasure is mine. Credit goes to my friend who shared this piece of text through email. [see the courtesy!]

    //I think its just a matter of understanding. .//

    Yes, well said!


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