are family values the scapegoat of love?

What do you think you can lose for the ‘love’? I would not say ‘sacrifice’ since i feel it has some implied meaning for a dedicated but noble cause.  Beforehand i insinuate that i am not against ‘love’.

The main reason for blogging this is the hot news about tollywood megastar chiranjeevi’s younger daugher’s elope with his love and they got married in Delhi 2 days back. People who were not aware of this incident or would like to read about this, here you go..

you can read the article here in IBNLive wherein she said that she was under housearrest.

you can have a look at here for the exclusive interview she had given to the press.

 I know every individual has their own views and arugments towards this love. But to what extent? I remember the same incident happened with Rajinikanth’s daugher Aishwarya with the actor Dhanush and by then it was like a cataylst for the magazines, newspapers, weeklies asking, “Will Rajini sustain his  image by accepting his daugher’s love?”. Whatever happened, atlast they have succeeded. May be chiru’s daughter also might have done the same. But why couldn’t she just prolong the same struggle?

Ideally and generally, no parents are against their children. If at all they seem to be like so, its all because of the same old  ‘society’ and ‘family values’ and on top of which the incidents they have  been experiencing. What insipires the children to simply forget everything in a moment and just run away? If at all the education had been supporting indirectly by any chance, right from your very basic identity till the happen-to-get-blamed-education, you needed your parents for the same.  Had you ever eloped in your childhood for your preferences being declined by your parents? Irrespective of your maturity level by then, you were not bold enough to take such a decision right. Why they alone should suffer, sacrifice for their children? Its after all the same body everyone is given, filled with blood, veins, feelings.. No one is an exception. 

You could not even have a moment to just think of the entire journey your parents have come across for developing not only their images and whereabouts, also so much dreams and beliefs on you? Then what for the whole life is? Obviously any parent would seem to oppose initially when they hear from their kid saying that he/she has chosen their life partner. Definitely it would be because of the pain caused by their dreams demolished. I just felt bad for Chiranjeevi, for having had a well developed image. I don’t say that i pity him or his image would get spoiled. But he happens to face all those unnecessary intrusions by press, court, relatives etc., 

One good and bad thing is they are all celebrities. Once they offer themselves for the photo flashes, they are donated to media and publicity who are always willing to make use of these people atleast just to boost themselves. No matter your parents are well renowned or not, would not it set an example for others and inspire them?.

Well, you may ask one good question. “where is the life we wanted to live, if we keep considering others?”. Obviously it makes sense only when its considered for ‘others’. But the parents are not ‘others’ without whom you don’t have any colourful feathers!

Don’t you think it is an insane ? Adding to that i feel the whole point of you possessing the ‘maturity’ is an utter non-sense!

Just thought of sharing my views on this.  Any comments/critics/counter arguments are most welcome!🙂

If at all it invigorates atleast one person to think before they ink in future, my 50th post in this blog would get the credits by then!!🙂

19 comments so far

  1. Divya on

    Hey, good topic man.. U in love?

    Came here from your scrap in my page…I see the same category ‘relationship, u and me’ like princessofgold.blogspot.com Whats happening??😛 Inspired???😉

  2. raghs on

    @Divya,

    Welcome here. Thanks for dropping by.

    //Hey, good topic man.. U in love? //

    Thank you. What made you think so? 🙂 my goodness. i have not posted any topics based on ‘terrorism’ :((

    //Came here from your scrap in my page…//

    u mean to say the scraps in orkut or ur blogs? sorry a sudden confusion. had been thinking whether have i visited any blogs of the person named ‘divya’ but my efforts were in vain.

    //I see the same category ‘relationship, u and me’ like princessofgold.blogspot.com Whats happening?? Inspired??? //

    Thank god. You dint find the same topic there as well🙂 .

    one single answer is, “Yes, i am impressed and inspired”. But don’t u feel the tags/labels are matching to the subject? Besides there are two other labels as well!:)

  3. Deepakala on

    Good!
    I too have the same opinion.
    Just think about it! she is only 19 years old. Which parent would want their daughter to get married at such an young age? And sreeja calls this “pure love”. She can be correct. But, can’t they atleast have waited till they complete education and got a job. Then, if you ask your parents for support, I dont think fair-minded parents who want their children happy will refuse

    Anyway, I also felt bad about the media in this episode. Any media channel has not got the right to telecast a run-away bride’s marriage just becoz they got the footage! Afterall, it was a delicate issue for the bride and groom’s parents.

  4. Ponnarasi.K on

    Well handled controversial subject. Applause for that 1st!🙂

    Parents should have the maturity to accept the daughter/son’s desire and the kids should have the same maturity to make their own parents understand how much important the person whom they love is in their rest of the life!🙂

  5. raghs on

    @Deepakala,

    Welcome here!

    //Good!
    I too have the same opinion.//

    Thats nice to hear.

    //But, can’t they atleast have waited till they complete education and got a job.//

    That’s a beautiful question. I appreciate it.

    //Then, if you ask your parents for support, I dont think fair-minded parents who want their children happy will refuse//

    Though it may vary from parents to parents, but generally thats not the only and ideal way to satisfy your own needs, is what my argument!

    //Any media channel has not got the right to telecast a run-away bride’s marriage just becoz they got the footage! //

    well said..

    //Afterall, it was a delicate issue for the bride and groom’s parents.//

    Excellent. there you are!!

  6. raghs on

    @Ponnarasi,

    //Well handled controversial subject. Applause for that 1st! //

    Thank you for the applause🙂

    //Parents should have the maturity to accept the daughter/son’s desire and the kids should have the same maturity to make their own parents understand how much important the person whom they love is in their rest of the life! //

    Yes. Agreeable mam. Thats where the whole journey gets the meaning i believe.

    What’s the point in giving up without even corroborating?

  7. Divya on

    Divya Anand, Orkut remember now?

    Those labels just reminded me hers thats y asked.. 🙂

  8. Raghavan on

    @Divya,

    //Divya Anand, Orkut remember now? //

    Yeah. Both of us were right then🙂

    //Those labels just reminded me hers thats y asked.. //

    Good. Perhaps the impact might have been there. Hope you are clarified. Aint I?

    Thank you.

  9. sumathi on

    Hai Ragv,
    aallai vidunga, naan indha vilaiyaatuku varaipa.
    ida pathi pesa aarambicha naan konjamsuudaayiduven.
    so i the es

  10. pria on

    Age at nineteen can be too young to get married, but some are over matured among kids. Its not being nerd or geeky, but having big mouth.

    We live with our parents till a reasonable age only to know better and learn things from their experience. When someone ehappens to run from clogged chanis as an scape, it shows love is blind and they are upfront to do anything for the other person.

    Parents always pressurize children back home to statisfy things which ther they have not done in their age. But when it comes to relationship, girls are tiedup with mans decision sometimes. It an be due to family situation or other problems.

    If her parents had given hard time, she shud have proved how good the boy is to the family. But when cateism, status and money comes in, everything disappears.

    Decision for a 19 yr old and crticism from parents side…. never stops coz of ego.

  11. raghs on

    @sumathi,

    //Hai Ragv,
    aallai vidunga, naan indha vilaiyaatuku varaipa.
    ida pathi pesa aarambicha naan konjamsuudaayiduven.
    so i the es//

    alao.. alo.. sumathi.. nillunga.. enna ivlo speed-aa? yaaaraachum pudingappa avangala…. saringa.. next meet pandraen!🙂

  12. raghs on

    @pria,

    well said about your point of views….

    //When someone ehappens to run from clogged chanis as an scape, it shows love is blind and they are upfront to do anything for the other person.//

    perfect.. agree with u. i think thats what perhaps trigger them!

    //Parents always pressurize children back home to statisfy things which ther they have not done in their age//

    i think this category also has some exceptions.. but majority seem to be falling !

    //But when it comes to relationship, girls are tiedup with mans decision sometimes. It an be due to family situation or other problems.//

    Might be. But what family situation insists you to forget the family at one shot? thats what i m wondering.

    //Decision for a 19 yr old and crticism from parents side…. never stops coz of ego.//

    atleast this should not happen! somewhere in life at some point of time, every1 has to look back!

    Thanks for pouring your views pria.

  13. s on

    nice subject just to have an arguement
    painful subject to face and experience

  14. raghs on

    @s,

    welcome here!

    //nice subject just to have an arguement
    painful subject to face and experience//

    excellent comment! very short but painful.. i could get it!! But i meant what i have described!

    Thanks for dropping by!

  15. மங்கை on

    //nice subject just to have an arguement
    painful subject to face and experience///

    very true….i also think that accpeting or not-accepting also depends on the family situation…whatever it is at this age her prorioruty could not be what she has chosen….but God know what really drove her to take such a decision…girls or boys taking such a decision at the right age with the right person could be encouraged….they should be matured enough to understand the anxiety of their parents and parents should not blindly be against their children’s decisions…

  16. raghs on

    @மங்கை,

    welcome here!

    //whatever it is at this age her prorioruty could not be what she has chosen….//

    This is what i had also been trying to though i also dont fully neither support nor oppose.

    //but God know what really drove her to take such a decision//

    This is a different angle of thinking! but agreed!

    //they should be matured enough to understand the anxiety of their parents and parents should not blindly be against their children’s decisions…//

    well said mam!

    Thank you.

  17. n on

    love is ocane of tears dont have to be
    get love is desaus for boys for boys
    time passing for girls tears all the time they dont know about love
    i know becaus i loss my love and
    all the time i cry for their loyalty

    thank you for yours openine
    of this side

  18. arif on

    love is ocane of tears dont have to be
    get love is desaus for boys for boys
    time passing for girls tears all the time they dont know about love
    i know becaus i loss my love and
    all the time i cry for their loyalty

    thank you for yours openine
    of this side

  19. raghs on

    Hello ‘n’ and ‘arif’,

    both of them seemed to have given the same comments. thanks for dropping by.

    Sorry to hear about the loss of your love. All what I can say now is, ‘time can heal any wound and it is the best medicine’. Wish you a speedy recovery.

    Take Care.


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