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Good Respect – A Reminiscence

I really do NOT know when I did give such a respect to certain thoughts and I had changed my decisions based on the second thoughts/opinions I had given.

Of course in life we have our own wishes and choices. Some extent we are flexible and we bend to other factors. But for certain things we are not. No matter how much we cover up, it is all only for the people and the factors existing externally. How about internally? We know the fact.!

We can term it whatever we like, “Its my passion“, “I can’t compromise on this“, “Yeah I agree with your point of view but somehow my heart goes with this“, ”Not this time, may be next time“ etc., We tend to say all this for many reasons but out of all, it can be for one good punch line, “I am neither egoistic nor arrogant. I do listen to others and consider others opinions!”

Not to deny, I had also been of this kind in various other things in my life. Certainly not with respect to protest ego or individualism but in order to keep my priorities straight by thinking that I was on right path.

Likewise, 2 years before I had a choice of doing my MBA in ICFAI. Though I had completed by MS by then, I still wanted to do a course on MBA for my personal interest. I had got a good feedback from one of my friends who had already done her MBA through ICFAI and the comments about the course structure, materials, fees etc., were all good. Though Symbiosis was the default choice for most of the people, I felt like it may not really fit the bill.

During the course of time I had asked the opinion of my beloved person and he suggested not to go with such insitutes where the course quality may not be that good and the cost also would be high. As I was not looking for a permanent and ambitious course for my career and a subsequent job, I was asked to reconsider the decision. I was little reluctant and had pacified him (following the usual style, which I had been doing for all the years before). After some point of time, he seemed to get convinced and said that, “It is all your money. However I just did NOT want you to spend for a not-so-worthy cause! Best Wishes“.

After a while, I was about to obtain the prospectus and submit my application form. Again, there was a casual discussion over phoneon the same topic with the same person. This time he was with more facts and suggestions stating that there are other good universities like Anna University, Madras Univeristy who are well renowned and of course not so commericalised. He again concluded that, “Though you may have money to spend on it, it is worth doing it after a careful and diligent analysis on the grounds!“.

Those words made me really think for a while. I thought definitely the words of wisdom would NOT have come easily and he has been having a good knowledge about the Universities, the quality of the courses and the reputation as well. Out of all, no one can be a well-wisher like him for me and my betterment! I had decided to really, really LISTEN to the words and consider it nicely as it was the time to do so. Somehow those thoughts chipped in for respecting the person and his candidature. I had given up my thought as a result.

He was none other than my beloved dad! But unfortunately by the time I thought of applying for the MBA course in one of the universities he had suggested, I did NOT have him with me. He had passed away on this same date 2 years back! It was on 22 Dec 2008 Monday! I could not even share this fact on time! :(.

I miss you dad! :(. Still loving you and your deep routed thoughts and the cultivation you had done !!

May your soul rest in peace….

I wish the fellow bloggers to follow this piece of information if at all you really like, love and respect your beloved people, especially your parents!

PS: Just posted this blog, as my thoughts on this ICFAI stuff got aroused after getting the ICFAI course pamphlet like notice paper given by one of the ICFAI executives on the stall they had put up in CTS GVC Campus during the lunch time!!!


Calm a disturbed mind

I got this as a forward. However, felt really good and thought of sharing this with you all.

Buddha’s Advice to Calm a Disturbed Mind

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers.. This was in the initial days. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink , So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake.

This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same. After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back. The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.

escaped from a terrific accident

Hi friends,

Just wanted to share with you an accident I met with recently and the terrible shock!

Day before yesterday early morning I started from office at around 4 45 AM after giving a release. I had dropped one of my team members and was driving back home. Though I was tired and yawning, believed that I could manage to drive home safely as I was used to the late night stays.

The music system was also boosting my confidence as it was playing a nice set of Ilayaraja’s melody songs. All was good for quite sometime. The distance between office and my home was around 18 kms and the tiredness joined hands with the cool breeze and altogether they made me feel drowsy.

Felt sleepy and increased yawning gave a symptom that i would doze off. Yes, indeed was somehow. But still had been managing to drive while crossing the important areas like Intermediate Ring Road, SilkBoard, Bannerghatta Road etc.,

It was just 1.5 kms to reach my home and after taking a turn in the main road, again I felt drowsy. But by the time I could realize what had happened, all what I could hear was the screaming voice of a man. He was standing infront of my car and looked like shouting at me. I then realized something  bad had happened and looked at myself and the position of car.

Thank god! I had not hit him. But then how come he was throwing a different sight at me? I was also safely sitting inside the car. Then what the heck?

With the puzzling mind, I looked at the road and the situation of the car. Oops.. I had got into the ditch which was on the roadside in a few seconds and the car was tilted at around 40 degrees. Shucks!!!

Now I could bring out an analogy of why the man standing infront of the car was shouting at me and the collapsed state of my car. Luckily I had kept the window next to the driver seat open and using which I was attempting to come out. Immediately he came for rescue and he came to the other side of the car by managing to jump on the raw grasses and plants left unnoticed. He managed to open the door and gave his hand to lift me up! I luckily came out.  By God’s grace, I was not injured and had safely come out.

It was 5 15 AM and I was just 1.5 kms away from my home. I did NOT have the customer care or the Maruti On Road Service (MOS). Hence I called up my wife and asked her to come quietly without giving any info to my mom who would most probably have waken up by that time. I had been waiting on the roadside and there were many cars, two wheelers, early morning joggers stared at my car and stood for a while with an intention of lending a helping hand. I had been informing them that nothing had happened and I was safe. Also had been answering to their queries out of curiosity and listening to their advices as well.

In the middle, an auto had stopped and two people got down and they looked at the car. Tried on their own for sometime and told that they would get few more people to lift the car. He had come after sometime and we tried to provide a solid height for the car by shifting the big stones to the bottom of the car,  but still no luck. One cab stopped and it looked like a call center taxi coming from an IT company to drop the employees at their home. The driver came out and told that it may not really work out. One of the employees who came out the car, took some snaps of the tilted car on her my mobile.  The day was slowing rising and the light was spreading out.

After sometime one other car also stopped and the driver of that car suggested that it would work out only through a Crane and if you try to do something manually the car wheel may get cut and you can’t even drive. It would be better if I can call up the crane services. I nodded for doing the same.

There were couple of other people gathered in the place, who looked like staying nearby and heading back to home from their shift at office. Their attire confirmed of their profession. They also joined hands.

In the meanwhile my wife had come and I had called up Maruti On Road Service and got a reply that one person was coming on his way to assist us. We had been waiting and the MOS employee had come to the spot. He told that he could NOT really tow the vehicle by looking at the condition and he gave the number of Crane Services. I had also called up JustDial (an excellent services provided by these people by sending the required info to you in the form of Email and/or SMS at the very next moment) and obtained few more numbers.

The real critic started after the Crane person arrived on the spot. By that time the autowala who had helped initially had also took few more people along with him. The other few techies also joined hands. So altogether we were 10 people trying to do all trial and errors by pushing/lifting the car through the wooden sticks which are of considerable size to apply pressure and also with the help of big stones lying down on the roadside. Luckily we were able to see some effects. But still it was a collective effort and not that easy.

I could still hear the voice of one of the techies to the other saying that “Macha, I was thinking that it was just a Maruti 800 and it would not weigh so much! My god! But I stood corrected Macha! Too heavy da it is!!“. The other person agreed to him. I had told him that “it would hold good if the car was on the ordinary position instead of the tilted angle!

After about an hour, we were able to get the car out of the ditch and the overall look was so very pathetic due to the heavy damages! The right side of the car was totally smashed including the bumper, Bonnet. The door was jammed. The bonnet was broken. Both the bumpers fell out. Looked like the oil was leaking as well.

Gave tips to various groups of people who assisted in this regard and we reached home at 6 45 AM.

The most important and terrible shock was I never thought and imagined that this kinda situation would happen when commuting by Car. Good or bad, the travel in Car had safeguarded and it was luckily in the interior road and NOT on the main road. Had I driven my bike, it would have been even more terrible and injuries would be assured for the traveller!

Though having been getting calls from relatives, in laws and friends and getting their suggestions and advices, I do NOT have any other say rather than admitting the fact and consequences of continuous late nights and restless works!

Another beauty was that during these period, I could not even recollect the fact that I was supposed to renew my Car Insurance and it got expired by Jul 2010 itself 😦

Nevertheless, A good lesson learnt !