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Calm a disturbed mind

I got this as a forward. However, felt really good and thought of sharing this with you all.

Buddha’s Advice to Calm a Disturbed Mind

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers.. This was in the initial days. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink , So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.” After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake.

This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same. After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back. The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water. Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.


I’m no longer Ordinary

Having been reading my favorite author Robin Sharma’s blogs (The author of excellent books entitled ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’, ‘Who Will Cry When You Die’, ‘Greatness Guide’ etc.,) through my subscriptions on his website and a few them are marked with ‘To Blog’ label in my Gmail inbox. This one was also more or less happened to fall in the same category, but there was a special request from the beloved Robin Sharma which explicitly requests the readers to share and spread this message across people.

I am obeying sincerely with no second thoughts. 🙂

Here you go.

I started off the first chapter of “The Greatness Guide” with “I’m No Guru”. Nearly every leadership presentation begins with me sharing my VHB (Very Humble Beginnings) and the fact that I am right out of the audience. In nearly every one of the thousands of media interviews I’ve done, I fight for the fact that I’m just an ordinary guy. Why do I do this? Because I never want you to think that I’m somehow different from you. I never want you to think that the practices I live by and encourage you to embrace so you get to your best in terms of leadership and success and personal development are not possible for you to do because I’m somehow cut from a different cloth. But today I make the change. I have to admit it. I’m special.

Now before your eyes glaze over and you begin to question why you read my blog each day, kindly stay with me. I’m trying to make a point here. And it’s a big one.

I am special. And here’s the beautiful thing: SO ARE YOU. Saying that I’m ordinary is to deny the gifts that have been given to me. And you classifying yourself as ordinary is to make the very same mistake. Let’s choose not to do it anymore, ok?

No one walking the planet today is ordinary. Yes, too many have forgotten that they have remarkable gifts living within them and extraordinary potential to craft strikingly great lives and the power to be the change that they most wish they could see in the world (to paraphrase The Mahatma). Yes, too many people have resigned themselves to mediocrity and coasting through their days because they actually have been seduced into believing the liars in their minds that are nothing more than the voices of their fear (aka doubt). Yes, too many people actually believe in the false reality that The Great Ones (in business, arts, sciences, society) are different (and smarter/faster/stronger/luckier…include your own Excuse of Choice here). But none of that’s Truth. Is it? (And Leadership is a Hunt for The Truth).

The glaring truth of the matter is so staggeringly clear to anyone who wants to open their eyes (and heart) wide enough to see it: you, me, the grocery clerk at your local grocery story, the cabbie in Colombia, the poet in Pukhet, the banker in Buenos Aires, the nurse in Nepal, the teenager in Texas, the farmer in Fredericton… Every single one of us who inhabits the planet this very moment is special. We have great gifts that long to be sculpted into our own unique form of genius. We have authentic power that aches to be awakened and then used for a worthwhile purpose. We have potential that – if realized – could profoundly elevate organizations and communities and nations…and so The World. There’s not a single person alive today that doesn’t have the potential to positively influence a cast of thousands if they get out of their own way (by breaking through their doubts, fears and excuses) and act as the person that they truly are. Please think about that idea. No extra people on this planet. We all have Calls on Our Lives.

So no, I’m not ordinary (and I will no longer disrespect myself by saying that; the words we use have staggering power to create our reality). And the thing that makes me just as happy. Neither are you. Remember that.

P.S. Please share this blog with all those you know who will benefit by it. It’s a pretty powerful idea I think – that none of us is ordinary. And an idea that has the potential to help someone see themself -and their ability to make a difference in a whole new way. I fiercely want to get this message out to as many people in as many countries as possible over the next 12 hours. Please help me to do so. Let’s work together here.

It does make sense. Right? In a way we are all *special* to save the purpose of our existence in the earth :). Let’s be more special hereafter and do many special things to the people around.

Be Special.
Feel Special.
Do Special..

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Keyboards are dirtier than toilet seats

Courtesy: Thanks to my friend Meera for sharing this through an email.
LONDON: Did you know that computer keyboards often harbour more dirt than an average toilet seat? Shocking but true!
The findings of a research carried out by a microbiologist published today in Which? Computing magazine shows that keyboards house millions of bacteria which can cause diarrhoea and vomiting.
James Francis examined samples from 33 keyboards and found bugs including E coli and S aureus which can cause skin infections and make people ill.
For comparison the scientist swabbed a toilet seat and door handle in a typical London office and found that in the case of one keyboard it was five times dirtier than the lavatory seat. “I haven’t seen a reading like that in a very long time — it was off the scale. It was increasing the risk of its user becoming ill,” said Francis. The keyboard had to be removed from the office because it was home to 150 times the acceptable limit of bacteria.
Two other keyboards had “warning levels” of bacteria, while a further two showed high levels of coliform bacteria which are associated with fecal matter.
“These results are generally typical of offices up and down the country,” said Francis.
The chief culprit for contamination was people eating at their desks and dropping crumbs that lodge between keys and encourage the growth of millions of bacteria.
Other causes include people not washing their hands after using the toilet. Dust, which traps moisture, also provides ideal conditions for the growth of bacteria.
“Most people don’t give much thought to the grime that builds up on their PC, but if you don’t clean your computer, you might as well eat your lunch off the toilet,” said Sarah Kidner, the editor of Which? Computing. The magazine suggests giving the computer a regular cleaning.
 The survey showed that 22 per cent cleaned their keyboard and 27 per cent their monitor on a monthly basis. Just over one in 10 said they never cleaned their keyboard, which 20 per cent said they never cleaned their mouse.
 It recommended that computers be shut down and unplugged before being gently dusted with a soft, lint-free cloth and wiped with an approved computer cleaning fluid.
 The magazine also warned that headphones could ferry germs between people and transfer headlice.
 Atleast from now on shall we be careful and responsible to keep our environment clean and virus free?
  I somehow tend to clean my home PC on a regular basis which includes keyboard.  🙂 Anyways, it is again justified with the news.
   So lets continue the good work.. 

Drive for Excellence

A gentleman was once visiting a temple under construction.
In the temple premises, he saw a sculptor making an idol of God.
Suddenly he saw, just a few meters away, another identical idol was lying.
Surprised he asked the sculptor, do you need two statutes of the same idol. No said the sculptor.
We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage.
The gentleman examined the statue.
No apparent damage was visible.
Where the damage is asked the gentleman.
There is a scratch on the nose of the idol.
Where are you going to keep the idol after it is done?
The sculptor replied that it will be installed on a pillar 20 feet high.
When the idol will be 20 feet away from the eyes of the beholder, who is going to know that there is scratch on the nose? The gentleman asked.

The sculptor looked at the gentleman, smiled and said, “The God knows it and I know it “.
The desire to excel should be exclusive of the fact whether someone appreciates it or not.
Excellence is a drive from Inside not Outside.

I believe you must have well agreed with it. Is nt it?

I would like to thank my friend Varadharajan R for sharing this through an email.

everything happens for good

nowadays i have been ‘realizing’ many proverbs i would say. well, i may post those experiences in a separate blog!

this is an infamous proverb we might have been coming across since our childhood during several occasions and we happened to hear from many people around as well. ‘everything happens for good‘ – this might make us feel irritated and like adding fuel to fire when we are ‘in’ the circle! yes, i mean it.

when we say it to others, it may not matter but only when we ‘experience’, it will give a totally different shape.

Today i got a call from office saying that the filesystem reached its 100% in Production. Despite being a holiday, it does not matter when you are on a production support :). You have to be available on 24*7 basis as per norms. Well, i just told the network admin (aka system admin) to move the heapdumps, javacore files (they are the files which the Java process writes into the filesystem when the running java process reaches out of memory) to the external hard drive so that we can get some space. but even after that, there was no luck :(.

I came to office and i did the usual work around. I stopped the application server and cleaned up the temporary files as well by archiving the log files. And moved those archived files to the external hard drive. still no luck :(. It was stubborn and showing 99% :).

Had been thinking what would be the cause and somehow started into the tuning, troubleshooting documents. In the middle, thought of bringing the server up. But to my surprise, the server was not getting started and it was showing some errors in the linux console. After some attempts, thought of killing the process as usual and while doing so, by mistake i killed a different process named ‘EmailService‘ which was on top when i searched for the ‘java’ processes running at present in the system. Usually there won’t be any other services than our regular application server process and the corresponding node agent. Till now i have not seen this EmailService and it was not attracting me too. So i went ahead in killing the process and then i found out the mistake when verifying after deletion.

In the middle, i just checked for the memory usage, it went again upto 100%. Wondering what might be happening!

Thought i have done a mistake and have to get it corrected, searched for the process or its corresponding scheduler (cronjob in linux which is similar to the batch file in windows to automate tasks) for starting the EmailService. There we found so many core dumps generated in the EmailScheduler :). Lucky are we! After taking backup of those core dumps and deleting them, we got 24% free space and the disk usage was 76% !!

When asked the colleague about the issue during the startup of EmailService, he told one more infomation that this email service would be generating some pdfs as well. After some usual searches, we found out in a subdirectory there were some 7600+ pdfs silently sitting and occupying minimum of 1.1 MB each. Few of them had around 2MB size and very few had 20 MBs.. 🙂 So altogether we got some 700 MB+ space in disk.

Had the ‘EmailService’ not been deleted accidentally, we would have ended up somewhere else. Atleast we would have wasted some more time when dealing with the ‘Production issue’.

Overall, we should not panic about the issues rather we should welcome! 🙂 — is that what i feel now! wat say?

Talk Less.. Do More

Well, there is no need to explain the 4 words series.. any1 wud easily get it.

Its the recent blog entry of ‘Robin Sharma‘, a great author of so many excellent books like ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari‘, ‘The Greatness Guide‘ etc., Though i have been getting the updates from his blogs, this one triggered me to blog it immediately.

Just with Robin Sharma’s permission (:)), copy-pasting the content here. Anyways, the original URL is here ->

Here You go..

The smallest of actions is so much better/braver/smarter than the biggest of intentions. Leadership is all about making good things happen. About getting great things done. About the translation of beautiful ideas into brilliant results.

We live in an interesting world. Too much overpromise and underdelivery. But world-class leaders/businesspeople/ human beings are different. Remarkably so.

They talk less. And do more. They are masterful at execution. They are acutely focused. On creating value. On what’s most important. On birthing their best into the world.

Have any of you seen or experienced a little controversy in this regard? If so, let me know! I am curious to know the facts falling on the other branch of the tree!

dangerous ctrl+c

 Here you have a shocking NEWS about CTRL+C.  It sounds like a “must read” for me. Hope the same with you too.

 Ctrl+C may be the most important work we do everyday. But it’s not a very safe thing to do. Read on to know why.

What happens when you press Ctrl+C while you are Online…  We do copy various data by Ctrl + C for pasting elsewhere.

 This copied data is stored in clipboard and is accessible from the net by a combination of Javascripts and ASP.

Just try this:

1) Copy any text by pressing Ctrl + C
2) Click the Link:
3) You will see the text you copied was accessed by this web page.

Do not keep sensitive data (like passwords, credit card numbers, PIN etc.) in the clipboard while surfing the web. It is extremely easy to extract the text stored in the clipboard to steal your sensitive information.

I believe this would save us from online frauds [without thinking much on the probability ratios] ! 🙂

Courtesy: Thanks to my sister Karpagam for sharing this via an e-mail.

are family values the scapegoat of love?

What do you think you can lose for the ‘love’? I would not say ‘sacrifice’ since i feel it has some implied meaning for a dedicated but noble cause.  Beforehand i insinuate that i am not against ‘love’.

The main reason for blogging this is the hot news about tollywood megastar chiranjeevi’s younger daugher’s elope with his love and they got married in Delhi 2 days back. People who were not aware of this incident or would like to read about this, here you go..

you can read the article here in IBNLive wherein she said that she was under housearrest.

you can have a look at here for the exclusive interview she had given to the press.

 I know every individual has their own views and arugments towards this love. But to what extent? I remember the same incident happened with Rajinikanth’s daugher Aishwarya with the actor Dhanush and by then it was like a cataylst for the magazines, newspapers, weeklies asking, “Will Rajini sustain his  image by accepting his daugher’s love?”. Whatever happened, atlast they have succeeded. May be chiru’s daughter also might have done the same. But why couldn’t she just prolong the same struggle?

Ideally and generally, no parents are against their children. If at all they seem to be like so, its all because of the same old  ‘society’ and ‘family values’ and on top of which the incidents they have  been experiencing. What insipires the children to simply forget everything in a moment and just run away? If at all the education had been supporting indirectly by any chance, right from your very basic identity till the happen-to-get-blamed-education, you needed your parents for the same.  Had you ever eloped in your childhood for your preferences being declined by your parents? Irrespective of your maturity level by then, you were not bold enough to take such a decision right. Why they alone should suffer, sacrifice for their children? Its after all the same body everyone is given, filled with blood, veins, feelings.. No one is an exception. 

You could not even have a moment to just think of the entire journey your parents have come across for developing not only their images and whereabouts, also so much dreams and beliefs on you? Then what for the whole life is? Obviously any parent would seem to oppose initially when they hear from their kid saying that he/she has chosen their life partner. Definitely it would be because of the pain caused by their dreams demolished. I just felt bad for Chiranjeevi, for having had a well developed image. I don’t say that i pity him or his image would get spoiled. But he happens to face all those unnecessary intrusions by press, court, relatives etc., 

One good and bad thing is they are all celebrities. Once they offer themselves for the photo flashes, they are donated to media and publicity who are always willing to make use of these people atleast just to boost themselves. No matter your parents are well renowned or not, would not it set an example for others and inspire them?.

Well, you may ask one good question. “where is the life we wanted to live, if we keep considering others?”. Obviously it makes sense only when its considered for ‘others’. But the parents are not ‘others’ without whom you don’t have any colourful feathers!

Don’t you think it is an insane ? Adding to that i feel the whole point of you possessing the ‘maturity’ is an utter non-sense!

Just thought of sharing my views on this.  Any comments/critics/counter arguments are most welcome! 🙂

If at all it invigorates atleast one person to think before they ink in future, my 50th post in this blog would get the credits by then!! 🙂

Please refrain from giving Birthday Bumps

bday boy having cake pieces applied on his face (google search)

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I got this message from one of my friend and found worth to share across…….Please read thru !!!

Please refrain from giving B’Day Bumps

For all of us, birthdays are a time for celebrations, parties and bonhomie. There’s cake to go around and we all love receiving gifts from our friends and family on our special day.

But something rather disturbing has come to my notice in the past few months. This was a rare scenario years earlier … but now the same seems to be a norm !!! A very hurtful and potential dangerous way to wish someone – with birthday bumps.

When giving someone a birthday bump, you are targeting one of the most sensitive parts – the Back.

Birthday Bumps – Witnessed anywhere always brings back one particular college memory of mine.

There was a colleague of mine in college who stood witness to one of such events at his 20 th Birthday in College. It was his last birthday on his legs – Standing …..

He has been bed ridden now … for almost 3 years …..

Courtesy : One Hard Blow at his back during one of the Birthday bumps ceremony and he is paralyzed in the lower part of his body for the rest of his life probably ( May God forbid)

So My Frnds ……Before you raise your leg to hit someone, remember that even a little margin of error can cause a lot of damage to the spinal cord. One wrong blow on a sensitive spot could prove to be fatal for the recipient.

So next time you’re tempted to use this method of wishing, it’s time to pause and think again.

Folks, why hurt someone on their special day?

I’d like to request all of you to be a little more considerate and celebrate this happy occasion without causing anyone any harm. Let’s make it a great day for our frnds – one they’ll remember for the right reasons.

bday bumps img from google search

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Courtesy: Thanks to my friends Archana Muralidharan and Viji Rajesh for keeping me in their mailing list through which I got to receive this information.

Whatever it is, I felt so happy after reading the post because of the following points:

  • I never get involved in these activities eventhough our college life was not an exception to these celebrations.

  • I do personally believe that ‘the Birthday is very special to every individual!’. So,why making them suffer on that auspicious day?

  • Despite getting involved in a little debate with the buddies who contend their ‘Birthday bumps’, got a conclusion that I could not change them definitely.

But I am sure this mail would indeed take a chance.

Please let all your buddies know about this and let’s have the celebrations for a REAL “Happy Birthday”!

Are we perfect?

A man and his girlfriend were married.  It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations.  A wonderful time was had by all. The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo.
Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: “I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” she offered. 

“Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.” 

The husband agreed.  So each of them went to a separate room in the house  and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other.  They thought  about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with. The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists..  

“I’ll start,” offered the wife.  She took out her list.  It had many items on it.  Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband’s eyes. 

“What’s wrong?” she asked.
“Nothing” the husband replied, “keep reading your list..”

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband.  She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.  “Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.”  She said happily.  

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”  

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.   

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don’t really have to go looking for them. We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us..?   

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody’s perfect but we can find perfectness in them to change the way we see them.   

– We are not trying to condone what is bad. Correction does much, but encouragement does more.

“The blue of heaven is larger than the clouds . . .” 

Courtesy: Thanks to my friend Archana Muralidharan for sharing this through an e-mail.

Need i say anything more? I am sure you would have definitely enjoyed reading it. Though to all of  us, it looks so nice while imagining the husband’s role with us, it definitely comes through PRACTICE! Not just by thinking and accepting. Aint I? So, lets start….